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Adoption - Persistence Pays In Finding A Child To AdoptBy Bob Crane After learning that we could not have any children of our own we thought about adopting. We had heard about the abundance of children waiting to be adopted and that they would appreciate having a home to call their own. We took the necessary steps with our state to apply for the adoption process. We had no idea that the process was so involved. After learning what the background checks were for it all made sense. The state didn't want to place a child into a home that was unfit for children so they had to check out each applicant thoroughly. Part of the background check required finger prints be taken and to fill out a form listing people who knew you and ones you worked with who may not have known you so well. There was also an eight week class to teach the aspects of child rearing and what to expect throughout the adoption process. The class was extensive covering everything from vandalism to a child with severe depression. The vandalism comes in if you happen to get a child that was abused in some way and vandalizing something is their way of acting out their fear and frustration. We were told to expect both possibilities and that either would require professional help to work with the child. Everything went according to plan. We graduated from the class and them had our home study done. The home study is where a social worker comes to your home to check on the type of environment that the child would be exposed to. At the time we had a small three bedroom house and the social worker pointed that out to us by emphasizing how small the house was. I never found out why she commented on the house size there was surely enough room for one maybe two children. So after the home study was complete we were told that they would be in touch with us about events you could go to where you could meet children up for adoption. We waited for weeks and didn't hear anything from the adoption agency. The agency had a website with pictures of children up for adoption that we kept up to date with only to find out that the state never updated the list so many of the children on the website had already been placed in a home. Weeks went by and we still never heard anything but we kept preparing for the eventual arrival of a child. My wife had the better paying job of the two of us so I started a small home business that I would work with full time once we finally got a child. After not hearing anything for a long time I started to make some phone calls and found out that the state employees had been replaced with subcontractors and they had no record of us at all. It turns out that they lost the records of a lot of prospective parents. So because our records were lost we would have to go through the whole process all over again including the class. We became discouraged after a couple of years of going through this plus we felt that we were possibly too old at this time to even try to adopt a child so we never took it any further. At the time I didn't know that various churches had affiliation with children up for adoption. We were told that if we had looked further we may have found a child with one of them and our paperwork could have been transferred to them for qualification to be able to adopt. So had we followed up and not just blindly trusted the state we may have been parents today. If you are considering adopting don't make the same mistake that we did by trusting someone to follow through on your behalf. You have to take an active role in the search for a child to adopt. If you are looking on websites for children make sure you check to see if the website has been updated so you don't get your heart set on someone only to find out that they had been adopted a month earlier. Bob Crane is the author of www.alltoyotacorolla.com a website that helps you find what you need for your Corolla. He also runs a blog at: www.fixnkeep.com The blog discusses preventative maintenance and corrective fixes on cars and things around the house. "Why buy new if you can fix what you already have." keywords: Adoption | children | child | foster | adopt
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