How to get your parents to adopt a baby girl from China?
December 20, 2009 by Adoption Information and Laws
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Can you answer Kate’s question about Adoption?:
I am serious. I want a little sister so bad. My parents said that they don’t want to HAVE anymore kids. Then I asked them about adoption. They said maybe. How can I change maybe into a yes. I know that adopting a child is a life time comitment. NO RUDE ANSWERS, YOU WILL BE REPORTED.
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I am serious. I want a little sister so bad. My parents said that they don’t want to HAVE anymore kids. Then I asked them about adoption. They said maybe. How can I change maybe into a yes. I know that adopting a child is a life time comitment. NO RUDE ANSWERS, YOU WILL BE REPORTED.
Adopting A Special Needs Child
Adoption Feedback: You can’t convince your parents to want to adopt a child. If you’re so desperate for a little sister, go and find some sort of community thing you can join in with (like girl guides or a big sister programme of some sort). Or do some babysitting.
Adoption Feedback: OK you dont understand, They said no and you hit it on the head, its a life time commitment…that YOU wont be making. They will. They dont want any more children and you cant force them.
Adoption Feedback: I think it’s a great idea to get a little girl from China… maybe you could leave brochures around the house and just drop subtle hints. I’m sure that your folks will see that its a great idea, and then get you a little Chinese sister.
Adoption Feedback: Can I ask you why you choose China? Adopting a child from China is NOT easy. There are plenty of lonely orphaned/abandoned children in the US who need parents. I think we should leave Chinese children to grow up where they live, I hate how people are just taking them out of the country they live in and have heritage in. Adopting a Chinese child isn’t some sort of fashion statement like many celebrities make it out to be. If your parents say “maybe” they mean “maybe”.
I mean are YOU CHINESE? Can you instill Chinese values in that child? Are you going to teach her Mandarin, to write and to speak, are you going to take her back to China?
Adoption Feedback: raising one child can be tough, let alone two. take some time and think about all the stuff your parents do for just you in a day….then times that by 2. would you want to do all that work (even if it’s a labor of love)? besides, another kid will cut into the time that your parents can devote to just you.
also, adoption is an expensive (very expensive), time consuming process.
don’t push the subject, it will upset your parents.
instead, ask them to enroll you in a mentoring program. that way, you can have someone be like an older sibling, or you can mentor a younger kid and be like their big sibling. you might have a lot of fun. and the best part: no sibling rivalry.
Adoption Feedback: Your parents will need at least $20,000 to adopt a baby from China. Do you really want them to go through all that? And children are absolutely lifetime commitments – you know that already. So why would you want your parents to take on a lifetime commitment if they’re not ready for it? You have to be considerate of their feelings too. If you’re really serious about making your parents spend thousands of dollars and taking on a very serious commitment simply to satisfy your own needs, then perhaps you aren’t ready to really love a little sister. Loving your siblings take a lot of unselfishness.
Adoption Feedback: Do you have any idea what it take to take care of a child? I suspect you want a sister from China because they are cute.
It is your parents who will have to take care of the child not you. The adoption process is long and difficult and it is something your parent will experience. Not you. Your parent have to want this 110% not just ”maybe”.
Adoption Feedback: If your parents had said a straight out “no” then I would’ve said not to pursue the subject further but since they said a “maybe”….
You want a baby sisters specifically from China? Well I think that’s pretty common. In order to convince your parents I think you should:
-Show them some baby pictures from when you were a kid
-Bring back the (good) memories from your childhood that’ll remind them of how fun it was
-Show them how much these kids need to have a family, to be loved, to be adopted
-Research a little into Chinese culture.
Hi. Sorry for writting here, but I didn’t know how to make a new topic.
My mom told me that when they got married they wanted to have four kids, but then she had big problems with getting pregnant. They finally succeeded and I was born. 
My mom says it was a miracle. When I was about 4, I started thinking about brother or sister. It was my biggest dream and I really believed it would come true. When I was 8 we bought a big house and my parents bought a dog for me. I thought he would be like a little brother, but he didn’t. Of course, I love my dog, but it’s not the same. I have been praying everyday for a little sibling. I just wanted my mom to get pregnant – I knew that only God can do anything about it.
I am 15 and I’m from Poland (it’s a country in the middle Europe). My parents are 42 and 45 now and I’m unfortunately still an only child.
About 2 years ago, I gave up. I decided, that I have to stop thinking about it ang be unhappy for the rest of my life, because my mom was a little bit too old to get pregnant. But then I thought about adoption – it would be great for our family and it’s very good if someone can give the child care and education. There are so many children who need home and someone who would love them!
Some months ago I told my mom about that idea. “I’m too old” – she said. And I found some informations about adoption and I found out that she’s not too old.
Then she said we weren’t rich enough to have one more person in our house. I didn’t agree with that and I told her. We have big house, we go every year for a summer holidays somewhere, I can go to the extra English, Spanish and piano classes. Maybe we’re not very rich, but there are many families poorer than us, who have adopted children.
Then she said she had to work too much. And I asked: “If you didn’t work so much, you would adopt a child” and she said “yes”. Now she doesn’t have to work for so many hours and she still doesn’t want to adopt.
So I said to her that I would have to be unhappy for the rest of my life. And she said: “Do you think I won’t?”. So I asked why she didn’t want to adopt and she said that she was afraid that the child wouldn’t love her.
However, I didn’t give up. I decided to watch with them the „Stuart Littleâ€. My mom just loved the movie. After watching I said „Mommy, I would like our family to be like Stuart’s family.†And my mom said „And it’s not?†and I said „No, it’s too small. It would be fun if I had a brotherâ€. My mom said „It would be fun if I got pregnant†and I said „But then, the child would be much younger than me. It would be better to adopt a child about 5 or 6†and my mom Said „Oh, my God, girl, the orphanage is not a shop! You can’t say ‘I want a pretty, clever boy who is 5 years old’. Those are real people who need love and care. When I was a kindergarten teacher, I used to visit an orphanage and every time I went tere, I couldn’t help cryingâ€. It was the end of our conversation. I’m not selfish, I want to help the child too. I’ve already helped many dogs from the shelter. I just don’t know how to convince my parents. Please, help me. I would like to give them some ‘subtle hints’, but I don’t know what and how. Do you have any ideas? I knowi t would help my parents, that child and me.
P.S. Sorry if tere were any mistakes – please tell me about them. I have been learning English only for 6 years.
Hi, sorry for writting ‘tere’ – I know it should be ‘there’. It was just a mistake.
And I want to add that I have many friends and I’m a good student, so please don’t say ‘Find a friend for yourself’.
Why nobody wants to help me?