Can you answer cancankant’s question about Adoption?:

I submitted my dossier of paperwork to China in June of 2006. I still have quite a bit of time to wait for a referral, but have gone through my “ups & downs” with adoption and especially the prospect of possibly having to explain certain attitudes or political happenings to a child.

I do not agree with China’s politics at all. I find myself at odds with supporting a system that denies their own people basic human rights and will not allow others (Tibetans) their freedom. I do not wish to convey anything negative to my adopted child about her homeland, but these things upset and anger me. I am passionate about humand and animal rights
and China is a top offender in these areas.
I find myself making statements in casual conversation like, “China is really messed up – their govenment doesn’t care about their people”. I wonder how I can adopt from a country (and pay the government adoption fees) whose government I disdain.
Thanks for some of the more positive answers. As for the person who feels I would be benefitting from the “one child” policy, you’re right. I don’t make the rules, though. I think it’s terrible that children, especially girls, are abandoned in China. It’s one of the reasons I decided to go with this program. I have always been fairly vocal/active about my feelings, but I wonder how children adopted from China feel when they are confronted with news stories that are negative about their country of origin.

I also agree that she won’t be her country, but as a child, I think it would be disturbing to hear negative things about one’s country of origin.

I have a hard time monetarily supporting the government of China while Tibetans continue to not be able to gain independence. I understand that I would have to watch my mouth around a child, but things inevitably come out.
To those who say, adopt from the US, it’s much harder than you think. I appreciate the sentiment (and considered adopting domestically). I really do love Chinese CULTURE (holidays, food, traditional dress, music, etc.). This is separate from government.

I did do my research beforehand. I guess with the problems with Chinese toys (lead paint) and the more recent protests, my feelings have been stirred up.

Adoption actually fits in well with my politics. I choose not to have my own child because the world is overpopulated. I am able to do so (as far as I know).

I am also not looking to “save” anyone. I would like to adopt a child who needs a home, period.

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Adopting a child is a major turning point in a couple’s life, which is why knowing where to begin the adoption process can be quite difficult. Adoption allows your family to grow, expand, and become whole, but it’s important to begin the journey properly and carry out a lot of research before you jump in head first.

There are so many choices when it comes to adoptions, such as international adoption, so it’s prudent to take it slowly and examine all your choices, and the needs of your family, before you make a final decision and start filling out paperwork.

You should conduct some research on the various restrictions and requirements involved with each type of adoption, so that you know what to expect, and whether or not you qualify for certain adoptions. Finding the right adoption agency for your family is also a concern, as not all adoption agencies are created equal.

There is more than one type of adoption, in addition to international adoption and domestic adoption. Open adoptions allow for some communication between the birth parents and the adoptive parents during and after the process, while closed adoptions are more traditional in that the birth mother or parents are less involved directly with the new family.

An international adoption is always a little trickier, whether you’re planning to adopt a baby from China or another country. An international adoption involves more paperwork, more complicated travel, and different requirements depending on your country of origin. An international adoption is, however, a popular choice among many families who want to help a child in another country.

You can choose to use the services of a licensed adoption agency, an adoption facilitator, or move forward with someone who is considering private adoptions. Adoptions through either avenue work well for different people in different situations, so it’s always a good idea to find what works best for you and then move forward with your plans.

Adoption agencies are often a good way to go, as they provide a wide breadth of services to families of all shapes and sizes. Even if you decide on a domestic adoption, there are many complicated issues involved with adopting that are often handled more easily through an agency that is equipped to deal with such matters. You may want to adopt from another state, for example, in which case working through an adoption agency is probably your best bet for sorting through all the requirements.

From the start, as you enter the adoption process, it’s important to realize that adopting is not an easy task. It doesn’t always work out the first time through, and you will have to contend with adoption laws and practices that sometimes work in your favor, and sometimes do not.

The entire journey will be a tough one, but if you stick it out and don’t give up, you should be able to achieve success and find the perfect child for your loving family. It will be well worth the effort in the end.



Thanks to Garry Neale for contributing this article to our Adoption blog: