Gay Adoption Story Part 2 “Getting Qualified”
May 20, 2010 by Adoption Information and Laws
Filed under Adoption Videos
If you havent seen Part one yet please watch first. www.youtube.com Over the time we have been making our videos we have recieved many questions about how and why we adopted. To date, we have not directly answered these. This was because we really wanted to tell the story as a whole..not in pieces, and because we want to do the topic justice. This will still have to be a multi part story…but at least it will have the benefit of context. Part two of our adoption series talks about the steps you must take to get qualified to adopt children in California. Everything from Background checks, Personal profiles, Financial Checks, Health Records, Home Studies. Pretty much all the hoops you must jump thru to get qualified to adopt children in the state Of California. Part 3: Meeting Our Kids: www.youtube.com Part 4: Your Questions: www.youtube.com One of the hardest parts of adoption is finding an agency that has worked with gay couples before. We have tried to help in that search on our website by adding a list of gay friendly adoption agencies. www.gay-family-values.com Read Bryans Blog on what we left out of the video: gayfamilyvalues.blogspot.com Part Three will be about finding our kids…
Over the time we have been making our videos we have recieved many questions about how and why we adopted. To date, we have not directly answered these. This was because we really wanted to tell the story as a whole..not in pieces, and because we want to do the topic justice. This will still have to be a multi part story…but at least it will have the benefit of context. This part of the story addresses the conversations we had with each other about having kids, what we were willing to take on, and how to go about doing it. Part 2: Getting Qualified? www.youtube.com Part 3: Meeting Our Kids: www.youtube.com Part 4: Your Questions: www.youtube.com One of the hardest part of adoption is finding an agency that has worked with gay couples before. We have tried to help in that search on our website by adding a list of gay friendly adoption agencies. www.gay-family-values.com Read Bryans Blog on what we left out of the video: gayfamilyvalues.blogspot.com
i just wanted to say you two are amazing, and don’t let these haters bring you down- what you did is beautiful, and a family is a family no matter what sexuality, race, or beliefs they may have. don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. i hope my adoption experience someday will be as wonderful as yours is.
@depfox oh i see. i am sure she must had been an understanding grandmother to be at that time. =)
@deansilverz My mother takes some Medications that would have prevenented kids from being placed in our home. My mother has delt with depresion caused from the abuse from my father and her very difficult life.
how come jay’s mom have to move? just curious. nvm if you got no time to answer.
Wow the paper work goes there alright, it seems tough but not in a “now I don’t wanna do it kinda way”. You have to be 100% committed when going for this, for me it might be extra hard or even impossible to adopt compared to others… But I have to maintain hope even though my future is oh so dark.
luciorubio has not studied the Bible.
I belive in the word of god being infallible and the bible is the word of god but the bible wasn’t written by the word of god it was written by men, men who have biases even if knew of them or not.. but lets not get into debates now I just wanna say that if it helps… I think you guys are awsome and really are an insperation and if it counts for anything just know that your impacting my life and from the bottom of my heart thankk you really
which I believe includes the pig and well if anybody has ever eaten bacon well their commiting abominations but hey that’s what it says in the bible..
and isn’t it funny in the bible it says that eating and I quote from deuteronomy ch.14 verse 6-8 it is an abomination to eat anything w/ a split hoof divided in two…
wow I don’t even know where to start I just wanna say im 16 and a catholic and gay and I do want a family when im older and I that you guys for paving the way for me and you guys seriously are an insperation however cliche that may sound and I just wana say the god I know and worship sent his only son to die for me and I think that’s a god of love not one that spews out words like the love these guys have for there children and each other to be an abomination
So love is an abomination. Im glad I dont live in your head or your world
Stop this abomination !
@MaryWaterton (continued)
However, the sexual repression required of priesthood becomes too much, and he gets it into his head that abusing these poor kids is ok, b/c he knows the church will do its best to cover up the situation in order to save face. Far less lives would be forever ruined and altered if, instead of spreading lies and hatred, you decided to preach love and acceptance.
@MaryWaterton
Just think. That priest, or priests like him, probably grew up in a strongly catholic home. He hits puberty, and starts to feel a natural attraction towards the same sex. In order to avoid being shunned and hated by his entire family and community, who like you spread hate and lies about homosexuals. he then becomes a priest, so he won’t even have to address the question of his sexuality.
@ MaryWaterton
a priest’s homosexuality does not inherently cause him to abuse kids. If anything its hateful prejudice from people like you that would cause him to divert into such criminal behavior.
@ treetri88 … Correct. That’s what happens when sodomites are allowed into the church. Invariably the homosexual priest sodomizes young boys. You are making my case for me, thank you very much.
Legalized chid abuse has already happened from countless priests, pastors, and powerful parents. You may want to look into the recent sexual scandal of the Church of Ireland.
What are your reasons for thinking this?
Fuck you, you ignorant cunt.
Homosexual adoption is nothing but legalized child abuse.
You guys are awesome!x
LOL, “Dungeon with a sling”.We can totally relate. We just completed our homestudy and will send it to our agency soon. We are going the private route. You are right, it is a long tough and sometimes expensive process and now we are just hoping to be matched. We will definitely consider the foster path if this does not work. We are in Texas and hoping for a california birth. Great video guys. We are over the first big wall, now we are in wait and see mode. Our social worker is GLBT friendly too.
I am so glad that you have made these videos. My partner and I are considering adoption. You guys are great. Thank you for sharing your journey. This is so helpful to those of us working through the adoption process.
I love your family.. it’s full of positive energy.. your kids will turn out gr8 I think
God bless you
You guys see rosie odonnels gay cruise show / movie on cable? mostly all gay fams. there was a gay couple who adopted like 8 kids, an adorable adopted 10 y/o boy kept asking when they were gonna get married… they got married on the ship. 1 LIFE
@tinkerbell12345able so would you rather not be adopted at all and be on your own in the world with no family?
@meimfast how about you get one. there are more orphans than you can even count, and i don’t see you providing families for them. everyone should get a chance to have a family, so stop the hate and channel it into something can can help the world instead.
I actually wanted to say that I am really happy for your guys and your kids.
As a gay guy myself, I always wanted kids as well, but adoption rights do differ in Germany. However, I sincerely hope that other kids will find that love in parents everywhere, either gay, lesbian or “just” straight and that all those haters out there will someday focus on the important issues in life…love, respect, honesty, trust, truth etc…lots of love and strength for your guys. your kids gonna be proud of you.
@meimfast as you can see we have a very happy life I wonder about yours if you are searching out gay families to attack
fags get a life
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well I am glad you have a family that loves and takes care of you. Maybe you should look into adoption and talk to kids who dont have homes with loving parents then you can rethink your comments.
i would never want to be adopted by gay people sorry but i just don’t really feel comfortable knowing that two men have sex with eachother its just wrong
@Nullygully the vote was somthing like 51-49. to say california treates them like dirt is a little insensitive. there are alot of people who believe in equal rights, like myself
There are so many kids that need homes its really sad :O(
A mansion indeed! You guys make such a cut couple, it’s something about Bryan’s shyness =]. I used to think that because I’m gay I can’t have any kids, but your vids are definitely proving otherwise. I love kids, (love my nephew and niece to death) so I would like to have kids someday and I hope I can. You guys are awesome.
I’m so late on this one, but my goodness, you guys are more than amazing! Bravo! Just for being you…
No offense taken we made a video about this. ILL send it to you
to the men who posted this video, my question is for YOU… so comments from others are fine but i will NOT debate things with you.
in your video, i see what appears to be a Christmas tree. that implies that you celebrate Christmas, which implies you’re Christians.
how do you make sense of that & being gay?
please realize that i am genuinely wanting to understand. i want to hear your thoughts. i’m not trying to be insulting or anything, i just want your perspective.
One more youth about to be traumatized. Bravo to you, faggots.
@prayforthegaycure i don’t pray, but after your comment i’ll start praying for YOUR soul, hope you find some help
lovely family!
i wish you all the best!!!
omg such a heart warming story, thanks guys
stay away from children with your sick, sexual perversions!
even in nyc, this is really informative. And i liked bryan’s notion on siblings, we do always need someone to beat the snot out of and vice versa XD
I am so glad i have found your videos. I am a gay man, and though i do not wish to be a parent, It is lovely to see that there are possibilities out there for those gay people that do want kids.
Thank you for opening up and sharing your experiences. I have no doubt that your videos will plant the seed to help many families grow and blossom.
Peace and love to you both.
Happy New Year.
~TJ.
i just want to say that i love your family.
you four are loving and sweet and wonderful. i know that i don’t really know you and you don’t know me but i just thought that i’d tell you that. sorry if you think that’s weird.
What struck me most about this video is when you guys talked about your life before you children. Amazing how much you’ve been able to enjoy with each other. Sometimes I wonder if that’s even possible. Guess I just haven’t met the right guy yet. Congrats to you both!
you guys are so brave cuz i know a lot of ppl give rly negative comments to ppl that are not the same as them or do not fall under a certain category as them but i rly liked this video and we need more ppl that keep going no matter what ppl say about them. thanks for being you.